Tooth fairy, surgery, friends and more!

Let's see.. where to start.

Last post I mentioned we were moving. Well, we've moved! We love being closer to family, and not to mention back to a slower paced town. It helps reminds us to stop and smell the roses while we are running around like chickens with our heads cut off.

Also, Ana finally had her procedures/surgery that we were waiting over 6 months for. About a month ago she went in and they put Botox into a couple muscles in her neck, removed her adenoids and did a bronchoscopy. There was a different doctor doing each part. The Botox doctor was first and quickest. Then the bronch doctor. He came and talked to us after he was done. He said that everything looks great. That even in deep sleep she protects her airway. And there are no missing pieces, and it's all in working order. So the issue is she just needs to learn to coordinate closing her airway while swallowing. Then the adenoids doc came in a few minutes later. Kyle had stepped out of the waiting room for a minute. The doc came in holding a specimen jar. Wait. Let me digress.

For this big day, we had to get to the hospital to sign in and wait around very early, about 6:30. For the Polks, that's awfully early. So while we were waiting, we were playing around with Ana. Kyle was holding her upside down and we noticed how her top tooth is finally coming in!

 

 

Who knew that fuzzy, upside down, can't even really see it picture would be the only one we'd get with that tooth inside her mouth.

 

Let's continue. The adenoid doc came in, holding a specimen jar. I thought maybe he was going to show me how massive her adenoids were and that's why she would get stuffy at night and sick so easily. But he looked as if was wearing sandbags around his neck. Heavy. Then I got a little panicked. Just as we were walking back, Kyle walked in. We followed the doctor from the waiting room back to the holding room. He paused. I feel as if I blurted out "Is she ok!?". He calmed my fears, letting me know she did great, but is down a tooth. He accidently knocked out that previously mentioned tooth. Then handed over the specimen jar. It held her tooth. Not adenoids. He explained how he had the gag(not sure what that is) in position to hold her mouth open, and it tipped and pulled her tooth out. It wasn't a clean pull either. A little flab of gum got ripped and pulled too.

 

 

It's a small thing. She's fine. She recovered wonderfully. Although those first few hours were horrible because she wasn't feel good, and her only soother AKA pacifier couldn't be used because of the tooth incident. But she woke up the next day with a big toothless smile on her face.

Even though it's small and she's fine, Kyle and I feel slightly robbed. It's just another unnecessary baby thing taken away. Her first haircut was in the NICU. And it was the whole side of her head, which wasn't even used. And now her first tooth was taken before it ever really came in. Ok, just had to throw myself a small pity party:)

 

But in closing, the doctor feels horrible! Right after I said it was ok, things happen. And he said "No. It's unacceptable." What do I do with that!?  Things do happen, we understand. As long as she is doing ok, we're ok. He checked on her in recovery (which is rare), called me later that night, and continued to apologize at the follow up.

 

It's been pretty quite around here. Just trying to get things in order, line up appointments and changing things to our new address. Which is proving more difficult than thought with some of her services. We also decided to nix the in home nurse for now. So Kyle is being super dad and juggling the home and appointments. We're also still trying to get her to tolerate things through her G tube. Remember, she now has a GJ tube, so there is a part for each. She's still getting a majority of formula through the J. We're also going to be introducing some blended foods through her G too. I'm just still nervous, but I need to just go for it! I've heard wonderful things about blended diets and how people flourish on them. I'll keep you updated on how it goes.

 

We also just went to our first AMC annual conference! It was amazing. Some kids didn't really want to play with Ana since she's not mobile, and I think it motivated her. She was able to see how these other kids scooted around, roll around, wheel around, etc. And since they didn't just stay by her and play with her like her sisters do, I think it pushed her to get mobile. She's a pro and pivoting, and she's starting to slowly scoot! I need to edit the video and post it.  I'll have another blog about how wonderful it was, in detail.

 

She also is very interested in food. We're scheduling another swallow study (and sleep study), then moving forward from there towards orally eating.

 

It's been a crazy few months. I'm promising myself to keep the blog more updated. I really do apologize!

 

With love,

The Polks

Quick update

I realized that I haven't updated as much as I should! In over a month actually... I apologize..

What's new with Miss Anabear?

Well, she's learning to use her arms to the best way she can. She will swing her arms and knock things over, or use her mouth.
She's still working on scooting. It's kind of hit a wall, so we're talking with her therapists about getting something to help.
She still refuses to say 'mama'. Even though she tries. She looks intensely at our mouths as we say it and tries.

When we got home from our last Philly trip we had to change her tube. I think I updated about that. NIGHTMARE! Then about a week ago the tube broke again. Now, Anabelle has/had a straight J tube. And the size she had only came in a tube that had an external portion, 'high-profile'. Like the picture below. Except (obviously) that's not Ana, it's a photo off of the internet. Hopefully I don't get in trouble because of it. :)

So when it broke for the second time in roughly a month, I was done with it! We took her to the ER, because it was after hours. I had the ER call her GI doctor, because I wasn't able to get a hold of her. Finally we talk, and come up with a plan. We switched her to a low-profile GJ tube. The picture below isn't wonderful. I'm not sure why there is an apple in it.. But I hope it makes sense. The very top (where the apple is) is what lays against her belly. Then the balloon (the bottom of the apple) is what is inside her belly, along with the rest of the tubing. That way the only part sticking out is flat. It's wonderful. And since the main issues with the straight J-tube are that they broke on the outside, I am hoping this is much better. Plus, we get to see if she will tolerate food through the G-tube again. We haven't tried it yet, because she's been sick, but it's an option!



We meet with her GI last week. She isn't gaining enough weight. She has a registered dietitian (RD) that comes in before the doc, and we discuss options. It's nice to have that available! She said she'd like Ana to be gaining around 15 grams a day, and she's around 2.5. So she's plateaued. Which is difficult because she doesn't tolerate a high volume of food. And in a larger picture it's frusterating because I'd love her to be on a blended diet (BD). Which is literally food, blended. Then we push it through a syringe to feed her, rather then being on a pump. But we can't BD feed her through her J tube, per her RD. And I'm nervous about trying to feed her again through her G. So we are waiting until she is better to try it out and see if we can't get her on a BD through her G. That way we can add more calories, she won't be hooked up all the time, she's getting REAL food.. just good all around.

Let's see, what else. We are STILL trying to coordinate a procedure. Well. Procedure/surgery now. We're still waiting for them to get their stuff together and do a bronchoscopy and the Botox injection in her neck. We had a meeting with her ENT doc, and he said he agrees that removing her adenoids would be beneficial. So now we're adding that on to it. It's a lot, but it's not the easiest for her to be put under multiple times.. I feel bad for doing so much to her at once, but the risks are less if it's once rather then three separate times. Plus, she gets put under so much already, why not try and combine? But we've been waiting for just the bronch since around December.. so we'll see. I've expressed my frustrations plenty, I just hope they understand.

After we do the all of that, next step depends on the results. If her Pulmonologist thinks that we can move forward with another swallow study, we will. If not, then we discuss. I talked with her ENT, and if the reason she aspirates is other than her just being underdeveloped, then it'd be surgical. And if it's surgical, most likely it's be very invasive surgery. We're hoping not go have to even discuss it further than that. We're hoping her muscles are just immature and need to develop more.

But boy oh boy does that girl love to taste food! A few nights back we had a lazy pizza dinner night. And Alli was sitting on the couch next to Ana, and Ana leaned over and started to suck on her pizza! I was also on the couch, so I let her taste the sauce, and she was in love! She was very upset with me when I had to take it away. She's starting to bite food now. It's amazing, yes, but terrifying for me. I am scared she is going to take a bit and aspirate a whole bit of actual food. AH! I don't think her doctor would be pleased with me. I don't even know really what would happen, I hope she wouldn't choke. But ugh. It's wonderful she understands that's what you do, but terrifying.

Other then those big things, the only other thing is that we are moving! We're moving closer to family, so it will be nice. It's where Kyle and I grew up, so we're happy we get to raise our girls there too. Only downside is we have to switch therapists. Which is a huge downside. Once that I didn't realize until after we had everything set up to move. Not only do we have to start over, but I'm nervous it will take Ana a long time (again) to get use to new people. People that move her and make her work.. She's one determined little girl. If she doesn't want to do something, rarely are you going to get her to do it.

Thanks again for keeping in the loop with Anabear! And the support and love! It's amazing to look back on the past year plus and see how far our little fighter has come! Like I always say, we wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you :)

With love,

The Polks



The new normal

nor·mal

 [ náwrm'l ]   

1. usual: conforming to the usual standard, type, or custom
2. healthy: physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy

Firstly, I don't want anyone to be offended. My intend is solely to express my feelings. If you disagree, that is perfectly ok and I accept that. As I hope that you accept that mine differ from yours and we can still respect each other. 

I have three daughters, Anabelle is our youngest. I have done the baby things that majority of people deal with, what you typically think comes along with having a new addition to the family. 

With our older girls there were the middle of the night feedings, burping, spit up, introducing foods, tummy time (with ease), learning to crawl, holding their heads up (basically from birth..), doctor appointments for check ups and only very rarely between, playing with toys, etc etc. 

With Anabelle there are continuous feeds, no need for burping because she has a bag that does it for her, and nothing is in her stomach anyways, spit up that is bile only and due to severe reflux, nothing orally because she can aspirate, a variety of medications and hospital visits, and very physically delayed. Oh, and about 20 doctor appointments a month. 

I do not say any of this in a negative light. I mention these things because they are not normal. People continue to tell me that Anabelle is normal. Yes. There are things about her that are normal. She is a beautiful little girl, a wonderful addition to our family, I wouldn't trade her for any other baby, and her basic needs are normal as any other baby out there. 

However, her feeding bags and list of medications are not normal. 

Her formula being prescription formula is not normal. 

Her going to therapy twice weekly is not normal. 

Yada yada yada....

I hope everyone understand what my point is. I am a little tired so it makes sense in my head, and I just hope it makes sense as I type it. 

So medical update! yay.

We have the first set of results back from the muscle biopsy. From the conversation with the Geneticist all positive. The basic: It's non progressive. Which is the answer we were looking for. In the consult, he said that sometimes conditions start out looking like just Arthrogryposis, then become degenerative. So finding out that she can only get better was a huge relief. He also said she has Fiber Type 1 & 2 disproportion. Also, he said something about active necrosis. I am confused by all of this. It seems a little oxymoron to me...  And the nurse was trying to explain the blood results over the phone, and I was totally confused. I asked her to send me the report because it was all just too much to understand over the phone. Oh, and they are still doing tests on the muscle to see what else they can find since the first tests were somewhat inconclusive. 

These are just a few paragraphs from the records, just to explain how easily I can get confused:

'The muscle biopsy shows necrosis in two adjacent fascicles with near complete necrosis of their fibers that are being replaced by an infiltrate of histiocytes at the periphery of the necrotic fascicles. That change, which essentially represents infarctions of the two muscle fascicles, is not present in the remaining fascicles of this biopsy. The necrotic fascicles are not associated with significant inflammatory infiltrates other than the histiocytes at the periphery of the fascicles, and the remaining fascicles of the biopsy remain free of inflammation  There is no evidence of vascular thrombosis.....

Trichrome stain does not show the presence of "ragged red" fibers that could indicate a mitochondrial myopathy. Likewise, stains with SDH and COX (both mitochondrial specific enzymes) show no evidence of an abnormal pattern of staining. The fibers retain a normal amount of glycogen with PSA stains with and without diastase and normal amounts of lipids are detected with Oil-red-O stains. NADH stain does not show the presence of target or core fibers.'

So... with that said... if you understand all of this please let me know what the heck is means. I understand bits and pieces. But.. 

So with that and her appointment with the neurologist, we are moving forward with another MRI. I don't really know what the right path is, or if we are choosing the right steps, and all I can do is hope that we are. It will be about 3 hours and it will be on her brain and spine. So that means anesthesia for the 6th time since she was born. Not my favorite, but it's what we have to do. 

I wouldn't trade any of this crazy chaos for the world. Of course there are times I want to just throw the white flag up. Then one of the girls or Kyle will do something to remind me it's all worth it. I am remind to appreciate every day given to us. 

When we first found out there was something different with Anabelle, we were told she probably wasn't going to make it to birth. So here, 7 months and 14 days post birth, I can only be thankful for our journey, no matter where it leads. It might not be the normal path, or the path we expected, but it is ours and I wouldn't change it for anything. 

With love, 

The Polks

Just keep swimming

I started out writing this post a few days ago. Then put it off, then  got busy. I think I delay updating because it makes it a little to real sometimes. Sorry. It's easy to go through the motions and not think due to being to distracted by what is currently happening. And our hospital and doctors are very into having us make big decisions. So we focus on that instead of, "Hey, this is all really happening to our infant daughter."


So here it goes.. as always, very busy little girl.

Yesterday she had her surgery. Her surgeon found a port small enough for Anabelle. Which was so exciting, that way she didn't have to have a broviac, meaning there are no extra cords or tubing sticking out of her. So she had the port place, had a muscle biopsy and they switch her J-tube to the same type of tube, just a new tube. 


So in preop, we meet the anesthesiologist. After looking over her veins, he asked us why we were getting a port, and that she has great veins. ARE YOU SERIOUS?! This has been something Kyle and I have been deliberating over. Because it is optional. But then we keep reminding ourselves that winter is coming, and that we don't want her to go through what she's been through for blood or an IV one more time. Plus, if she gets sick again, and dehydrated, and they can't get an IV started, she could go into shock and things could be 100% worse. Thanks Dr. Anesthesiologist for making us doubt our decision in the 12th hour. Thankfully her surgeon (who has known her since birth) agreed with us and went forward with the port.   

The surgery took longer then expected. The surgeon said it should all take about two hours. When the 1 hour 45 min mark came, I called back just to see where they were, how she was doing, etc. The nurse said that they just finished the port placement and J-tube, and were starting the muscle biopsy. AH. Why? What happened? Is she ok? Well.. she is/was fine. 
The issue was the doctor had a tough time placing the port due to her anatomy. I understood what that meant when I saw her. Typically a port goes right around or below the collar bone. She had about 4 nicks where he attempted to place it there, then one on her neck covered with a steri-strip. He ended up placing it on her side, below her chest, but kind of on her ribs. There is a little cut about an inch or so above it where he cut to place it.  Before we got to see Anabelle, the surgeon talked to us. He explained all of this to us. We were scared, having no idea what to expect and all and asked how she was. He said she was fine, she did great. But that he was frustrated and not thrilled with what he had to do. He didn't like where he had to put it, and that it is going to her jugular, rather then normally coming out by the heart area (from my understanding). But that it is fine, will all work the same and she won't know the difference. This was huge coming from him. He is a very reserved fellow, who only talks when he needs to, and doesn't speak very loud. Him telling us how he was frustrated made me realize how different Anabelle's body is then other kids. 
But all in all it went pretty smoothly. The anesthesiologist let us know, again, that she has a small airway, and it was difficult to intubate her. But it was nice because he gave me pointers to let the next anesthesiologist know ahead of time what to expect and how to make it easier. 

We finally got to see our baby girl about 4 hours after handing her over. She was not a happy baby. We discussed which pain meds to give to her with the nurse. She said Morphine. I was TERRIFIED. The last time she had Morphine was after her Gastroschisis repair. And she was on a ventilator for 5 days. And they had to bag her time and time again. Like I said, the hospital is very parent guided. Great. Make me make this choice while my daughter is waking up from surgery, in pain... Ok, let's do it. Her normal dose would be 1.5 MLs, and we started out at .2 MLs. About 15 minutes later we realized that didn't do much. So she got another .2 MLs. Then she was feeling much much better. No more crying. Her crying wasn't full on crying, it was more like whimpering. And no side effects!! She did wonderful with it! Still hate giving it to her... but it worked. Then we were still suppose to go home that same day. Neither Kyle or I felt comfortable with that since she had so much done. We just didn't feel  comfortable we could control her pain, and what happens if her breathing acts up? Nooo thank you. Finally her surgeon said we could stay overnight. Oh, and I got my honorary nursing degree yesterday too. I wish it could work in real life and I could skip the schooling.. Ana's nurse in recover just mentioned how I know everything about her and how I could do everything she was doing. So maybe I could just be Ana's nurse :)

Later that night the nurse on the floor was giving Ana her meds, and she clogged her brand new tube. Now... I've done this countless times, so I knew it could be unclogged and didn't panic. But I guess her nurse is new, because she mentioned, 'Great, the rookie nurse clogged your tube.' Next time ya might want to keep that thought in your head, just sayin'. So I walked her through it. Told her what to grab to unclog it. But man, she clogged that thing up good... It was tough to get undone, but after about 20 minutes it was done. 

Anabelle slept all night, with only waking up her and there to whimper and complain. But overall her pain was controlled. She did have some weird breathing until about 11 PM. She was breathing like you would after a good hard cry. Kind of a hyperventilating breathing. But she got Tylenol with codeine at 10, and by 11 it stopped. 

I do have to mention that after she got her Morphine and opened her eyes in the recovery room, we got a few half heart-ed smiles out of her :)

In other news..earlier this week we meet with her GI. She has plateaued with her weight. She is hovering around 11 lbs now. She wants us to slowly increase her feeds again, until she can no longer tolerate it. We have to find her threshold. We think that with the extra therapy, and how she is almost always sweating, that she is burning to many calories. And since we can't stop either of those things... So she was at 16 ML/hour, and the GI wants us to go up 1 ML every day to every other day. As we see fit. Another thing where it's great because we went to medical school and all. 

I really can't complain. I would be upset if they were telling us what to do and not asking our opinion. It just makes me nervous because I'm not a nurse, a doctor, or anything close to having any say over anything medical. We will see how far up we can get Anabelle. The goal is at least 20, but who knows what she needs, it might be higher. Her GI is trying to avoid the use of TPN. It can cause liver failure, and we don't need to go down that road. She is a big advocate of NOT using it. 


In family news!

Allison started preschool (the same day as surgery...)!!! She will be in school 5 hours a day, for 5 days a week! She said that she liked it and had a good time. Of course I feel horrible though. Since it was planned the same day as surgery, we didn't pick her up and Kyle's mom did. Thankfully we have someone to do it (Thanks Cindy!), but it's something I would want to have been able to do. She did get cut on the chin by a little boy though... :( 
And Amelia had her first day in a 5 hour class, with a new teacher. She said that she liked it too!! And that she had fun, which is such a huge relief. OH. I called during the day to check on them. The teacher said that Amelia didn't take her nap, as usual. But she kept saying that she had to go potty. This is her way of avoiding naps and bed time. But every time she got up she did her business, so I guess you can't get too mad. 

But they are such awesome little girls. The other day Amelia asked if the doctors were going to cut Anabelle. We have decided it is best to keep the girls in the loop, and try to prepare them and explain things about Anabelle as best as we can. We don't keep anything a secret, we are an open book with them. I know they are only toddlers, but.. we think its best. We'll see how it plays out in a few years, but, for now we are doing what we think is best.

I digress. She asked about the doctors cutting Ana. I said yes, they are going to do it tomorrow. She got up and come over to us (I was holding her), and said how she doesn't want the doctors to cut her. We explained what they were doing, and why. What to expect the after, and how she will need to be careful with her. She said that she was sad, and that she didn't want them to cut her. And how she wanted to cry. Oh. My. Goodness. I love her!!!! She didn't cry. But just to know that she is so mature at four to realize this, and what's going one. Meanwhile, Allison is in the background jumping up and down, saying, 'They're going to cut her', kind of in a singing voice... 

Now, some might think this is horrible, because it's too much on a four year old. You might be right. To me though, I interpret it as her understanding what her baby sister is going through, showing proper emotions, and showing that she loves and cares about her sister. 

With each passing day Anabelle is getting better and stronger. Tomorrow we get to schedule an appointment to use her port for a blood draw. I'm terrified. I'm scared that it will still hurt, but mostly I'm scared it won't work. We will see... 

But we appreciate everyone's support, prayers, thoughts and good vibes through everything. It really makes a difference knowing people are there for us, and more importantly for Anabelle. Thank you!

With love, 
The Polks 

Busy lady

It's never a dull moment with Anabelle! 

Last week her GI called, and said that if I am not comfortable with her pain level to bring her in, again. To the hospital because it was Friday after 5:00 PM, and that's how our life works. So she had been screaming all day, and then I get home from work and no change. Even with meds. 

I took her in. We got her comfortable and admitted. I meet with the attending doc. I should mention we are VERY familiar with all of the doctors, and most nurses. Probably my least favorite thing. So he comes in and we discuss. He noted she was boarderline for an ear infection, but just not sure. So he wanted a complete work up. yay.... I explain how tough it is to get an IV and blood, and how we're getting a broviac cause of this very reason. I explain how last time they stuck her 14+ times, and still nada. He puts a cap on the times they can stick her, 3. Love it!! 

So two nurses come in to do the IV. These are new nurses I have never seen, which is weird... I explain how hard it is. I explain how I'd like IV therapy or a NICU nurse.. They reassure me that they are pros and can get it. I tell them about the 3 sticks max.... 

Two sticks in, they tell me I'm right, and mama knows best. DUH!
NICU nurses come down. Another 4 sticks. They got an IV twice, but both turned. Meaning they no longer went into the vein, but rather just into her arms.. filling it with meds and fluids. Painful.. 

So no IV. Then lab comes. They did another few sticks and got enough only for 1 of the 4 tests. Great. 

We saw her GI the next morning. Of course Anabelle was all smiles. Making me look insane. Then her GI remembered that in the hospital they blend the formula. Literally, just put the formula and water into a blender and wa-lah! She said that it takes out a lot of the gas.. still seems like she's crazy, but I guess it worked, for a few days. Anabelle came home on Sunday. 
She did pretty ok during the week, only needing Tylenol w/ codeine once a day.. however, Thursday she started getting back to herself. And now, Friday, I called her GI again. 

She also meet with surgery for a follow up. We told him what's been going on. He said that she is too small for a port, and she will get a broviac. But I guess there is such thing as a low profile broviac... (I can't remember if I have already said this..sorry!)

We meet with pulmonology this week. He said that he's happy with how she's progressed. Cancelled a med, added another one. Important news. He said that he doesn't want to repeat her swallow study for at least six months. And he said that'd be early. With that said, she will have a feeding tube, be it J or G, or GJ, for at least another year. In order to get her tube out she has to 
1. Do a repeat swallow study and PASS, showing no aspirating or iffy like behavior. 
2. Eat on her own without touching her tube AND thrive for another solid 6 months. 

That was a little upsetting to hear, only because her GI ok'd a repeat swallow study for as soon as it could be approved.. but it's ok. What ever is best for Anabanana. 

OHH and she is 11 lbs now :D Such a chunky monkey! Her hair has gotten so out of control too.. It reaches her eyes now! I put together some pictures and sent them to a doc for his opinion, so they have some funny words on the, but look how far she's come! 

See what I mean about the hair! 

(yawning because she is bored with me...)

 Her knees BENDING

 Ana laying out :)

As far as family news::: I just got a promotion/new position at work! It will be awesome. I think I will really enjoy the work, and am super super super excited to start!! 
Amelia and Allison are doing awesome. Amelia is really loving school. We have our first parent teacher conference next week! But there is this little girl who I can't stand. She tells Amelia that her shoes are not cute, or her hair or whatever.. then Amelia comes back and says she needs to wear different shoes, or she can't wear braids because this little girl said they are ugly.. UGH. I never thought I could be angry with a 4 year old!! Don't worry, I alerted her teacher to it and she has gotten better, I think.. 
I really don't think Ana and all of her needed attention has affected them to much. People always ask how they are doing with everything. I honestly haven't seen a huge drastic change in them. I feared jealous, outbursts, and just plain hell when we took Ana home from the NICU. But nada. I gotta say, our kids are pretty dang awesome. 

With love, 

The Polks